Whentheconversationcomestolove，italwaysraisethebiggestemotion，reactionandpassion。 But， Whatislove？ Loveisthatfeelingyougetwhenyoumeettherightperson。Thisishowmanypeopleapproacharelationship。Consciouslyorunconsciously，theybelieveloveisasensation（basedonphysicalandemotionalattraction）thatmagically，spontaneouslygenerateswhenMr。orMs。Rightappears。Andjustaseasily，itcanspontaneouslydegeneratewhenthemagicjustisn39；tthereanymore。Youfallinlove，andyoucanfalloutofit。 Thekeywordispassivity。ErichFromm，inhisfamoustreatiseTheArtofLoving，notedthesadconsequenceofthismisconception：Thereishardlyanyactivity，anyenterprise，whichisstartedwithsuchtremendoushopesandexpectations，andyet，whichfailssoregularly，aslove。（Thatwasbackin1956chancesarehe39；dbeevenmorepessimistictoday。） Sowhatisreal，lastinglove？ Loveistheattachmentthatresultsfromdeeplyappreciatinganother39；sgoodness。 LOVEISACHOICE Iflovecomesfromappreciatinggoodness，itneedn39；tjusthappenyoucanmakeithappen。Loveisactive。Youcancreateit。Justfocusonthegoodinanotherperson（andeveryonehassome）。Ifyoucandothiseasily，you39；llloveeasily。 ACTIONSAFFECTFEELINGS Nowthatyou39；refeelingsowarmlytowardtheentirehumanrace，howcanyoudeepenyourloveforsomeone？ThewayGodcreatedus，actionsaffectourfeelingsmost。Forexample，ifyouwanttobecomemorecompassionate，thinkingcompassionatethoughtsmaybeastart，butgivingtzedaka（charity）willgetyouthere。Likewise，thebestwaytofeellovingistobelovingandthatmeansgiving。 Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone（orevenyourself），hereisageneralguidetoloving。 1。Sayit。WhenyousaythewordsILoveYou，theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem，notwhatyousimplywanttofeel。Whenyousayit，makesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson。 2。Empathize。Putyourselfinsomeoneelse39；sshoes。Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem，tounderstandhowtheyfeel，wheretheycomefrom，andwhotheyare。Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell。 3。Loveunconditionally。Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations，thenitisnotloveatall，butdeepseatedopportunism（onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage，oftenunmindfulofothers）。Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch，butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife，thenitisnotunconditional。Islife，orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare，andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe，thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally。 4。Expectnothinginreturn。Thatdoesn39；tmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou。Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove。Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove。Rdonotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway。 5。Realizeitcanbelost。Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove，thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave。Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove。Don39；tmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove。Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem。 6。Neverstoploving。Evenifyouhavebeenhurtbeforeyoushouldnotstopgivinglove。 Youmustloveyourselfbeforeyoucanloveanother。Butbeforeyoucanloveyourself，youmustknowandunderstandyourselfprofoundly。Thisdeepunderstandingofyourselfwillautomaticallyleadyoutoloveyourself（sinceyouwillbecomeawareofyourpineessence）andyouwillalsoloveeveryotherpersonatthatsamemoment（becauseyouwillrecognizethatsamepineessenceineveryotherperson）。 TheaboveiswhatIthinkaboutLOVE。
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